I’m thinking a lot recently about how we have different parts of ourselves. In particular, we have the part of ourself that we show to the world and we have the part of ourself that we keep private. How are they different? How are they the same? Is one more ‘You’ than the other? How do we bring the two parts together to make us whole?
I’m full of questions today and I’m not sure that I have the answers. These thoughts come from something in my own life. People see a part of me on the outside, but if they could look deeper, they would find something different. I have fears and angst just like others do, but I don’t always show them. I often keep them hidden for just my private self to deal with and analyze.
Keeping your issues deep inside yourself isn’t necessarily a good thing. I’m learning this through my own yoga therapy work.. Sometimes when I keep things to myself, I don’t make progress in dealing with them. Instead, they dig in deeper to my psyche and to my body. I experience more aches and pains both physically and mentally. So, when I receive a yoga therapy session, I have the chance to change this pattern. In a session I can say something out loud in a nonjudgmental space. Sometimes just doing that can help me to better understand what my private self has been dealing with and I can better integrate it into my public life. My two parts can begin to merge in that respect.
During my own sessions, I’ve found that those private thoughts and emotions that once had so much hold over myself, don’t have to rule my life. I’ve learned to trust my inner wisdom and to move in a direction that is congruent with my beliefs and desires. With my own therapy work, I can let my private self out into the world more often so that more people get to see the whole me. It’s a healing process to be able to bring the different parts of myself together.
Now, I’m not trying to say that there is anything wrong with keeping some thoughts and feelings to ourselves. We don’t have to put ourselves completely ‘out there’ so that we share all parts of ourselves with everyone else. You might find that certain feelings/thoughts are reserved for special people and that’s just fine.
Instead, what I’m thinking is that when we hold on to an issue so tightly and refuse to let it out into the world, it can take over our private self. We can begin to let that issue make changes to our behaviors and our bodies. When that happens we might find out private self separating even more from the public version that we show to other people.
So, when it’s time to release an issue, whether it be a past trauma or a current situation, think about yoga therapy. I can help you make that connection between what’s happening in your body and what’s happening in your life. In a session, I help to guide you in a nonjudgmental way so that you can be empowered to make the changes that you need to make in your life so that you can move forward once again.
One of my goals in life is to help people heal from their past traumas and be able to move forward with more ease in their lives. I think that ease comes when the public you and the private you are not so disjointed. When you can move towards healing yourself, your world will change for the better. Learn to trust your inner wisdom in a session and begin to integrate your public and private selves.