Do you know that feeling? The one where you are sure that you know what is going to happen next? You think that you already know the outcome so you have already accepted it in your mind and in many ways moved forward with your thought processes.
Then, life throws you a curve ball and it gives you a different outcome. Wait, this wasn’t supposed to happen. You knew what was coming and this wasn’t it. You want to say, let’s go back and try that again. Unfortunately, you can’t and you have to deal with a different outcome or set of circumstances than you thought.
Well, that happened recently to me. I thought I knew the outcome of something. Then I did a little more checking and wait, what I expected to happen wasn’t happening.
It was something that was really important to me and I was not at all happy with the new result. I wasn’t in charge of the final result and I had to accept what was being presented to me.
So, what do you do when this happens? As with so many things in life, the action is less important than our reactions to it. Do you stomp your feet that the universe is not following the ‘plan’? Do you ignore what is happening and live in a state of denial? Do you accept the new path and adapt? Do you complain to everyone about the injustice of this change? Oh so many options!
I’ve tried all of these options at one time or another. Reality is that all of these options do not change what has happened. They only change your perception of what has happened.
I can tell you that in this case, I was a a bit devastated. I’m still coming to terms with the new direction. It wasn’t what I planned but it maybe is how it should be. I don’t really know right now. I do know I spent the first couple of hours being mad at the universe for this change in direction. It seemed unfair and unjustified. Now, I’m ready to do what I can to work with what I have.
I’ve moved from Plan A on to Plan B. This new Plan B is still forming and I’m going to sit with it for a bit to see what shows up. There’s no need to rush anything. At least not yet. I’ll consider my options and figure out what will work best for me.
I’ve been reading a bit lately about finding your peace within. In this example,this can be done by changing your reactions to a situation rather than changing the situation. You see, it’s your reactions that cause the most pain in your life. It’s not so much the situation, but your reaction to the situation.
While I can understand this intellectually, actually changing my reactions is a whole different thing. It’s much harder than it sounds. Reactions are often instinctual. We frequently react before we think about what is happening. The difference would be to take in a situation or event, pause for just a second to let it sink in and then react from a place of inner wisdom and calm.
I can see this in my recent situation. It was my original reaction that caused my immediate distress. It was my refusal to work with the details that I was given. So, now a few hours later, I have a little distance and I can see things a little bit differently. My reaction has changed and I feel less distress. I’m still not excited with this new turn of events, but I’m ready to work with what I have rather than push it away and live in denial.
Even though I can see the benefit to changing my reaction to a situation, I still can see the benefit to changing a situation as well. So, maybe its about finding your inner peace while you work to correct a situation. Maybe its about keeping your calm while you work with what you have.
I don’t have all the answers. I just know that I’m learning and growing a bit more each day. I can see that my earlier reaction didn’t really help the situation and that it just caused me more pain. So, I’ll learn and grow a bit more today and hopefully tomorrow I’ll be a bit wiser.
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