It’s been awhile since I told my story. So, I thought I would do that this week.
It all started with me asking myself…Who am I now?
This story begins with me being a mom of two. I have a daughter and a son and they’ve been my focus for many years.
When my daughter was born with some health issues, I made the decision to stay at home with her. I needed to be there for her & honestly, her first two years of life were so full of doctor’s appointments that I couldn’t have worked anywhere else if I wanted.
This started a pattern for me. I put my kids first for a very long time. When my son was born, this didn’t really change. I continued to put both of my kids first.
While I didn’t go back to work full-time until after both of my kids left home, I did work part-time while they were growing up. My part-time jobs were always something that I could work around my kids’ schedules and it felt really good to contribute to our household finances while still putting my kids first.
When I found yoga at my YMCA. I loved it so much that I did my first training that led to me getting a part-time job teaching yoga.
With my new passion for teaching yoga, I was able to continue my pattern of working part-time while I put my kids’ needs first. That meant that I could teach while they were in school or when I knew that it wouldn’t interfere with their extracurricular activities.
This pattern continued until my daughter left home at 16 to finish high school at a boarding school.
Who am I now?
It was at this time that I started to realize what I had been doing for the last 16 years. I had basically put much of my own life on hold so that my kids always came first. Sure, I worked part-time for most of that time, but it was only at jobs that minimally interfered with their lives.
I started to ask myself who I was and what I really wanted to do with myself. When my daughter left, I knew that my son wasn’t far behind and I didn’t want to be completely lost once they were both gone.
This started a process of exploration for me. For about a year, I kept asking myself the following…What am I going to do with myself once both of my kids are gone? I didn’t try to pressure myself into making a decision before I was ready, but I was open to suggestions. I knew that I wanted to keep teaching yoga, but I also knew that there was more that I could do with it besides simply teaching yoga classes. I just didn’t know what that meant.
My next step.
Then, one day I just knew what my next step would be. I was going to study to become a Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapist. This wasn’t a simple weekend training. No, this was an extensive pursuit. It involved many courses and 900 hours of training.
I started my training in November of 2015 and this September I will finish my 900 hours of training. It will have taken me almost 5 years to complete this course of study. Some of the classes I couldn’t fit into my schedule right away but I’ve persisted. I was determined to finish this goal.
Along the way, as my skills have developed I’ve been sharing them with the people around me. I so appreciate all of the people who have let me practice new skills with them. I also appreciate the persistence that has kept me moving forward.
You see this is a journey that isn’t done. I know that once I finish this program there will be more to learn. I’m always learning and always growing and I love that!
It was time for me again!
I spent so many years focusing on my kids that this 900 hours of training has been my chance to focus on my own goals again. I know that not everyone wants to go back to school when their kids are leaving the nest. For me, this was the right thing to do.
I needed to create something in my life that wasn’t about my kids. This goal of being a yoga therapist was something that I wanted to do for me. It’s something that I can continue to develop in the years to come. I can use my skills to help other people and I can grow a business in a way that fits me.
I’ve gone from being a mom who focuses only on her kids to someone who is more complete. I used to be the mom who didn’t know who she was separate from her kids, but now I’m happy to say I have a life outside of my kids and their activities.
I don’t regret spending so many years focused on my kids but I am very happy that I realized my time with them was ending and had the foresight to begin to plan what I would do after they moved out.
Have you thought about what you’re going to do when your kids move out of your house? Or, have your kids already moved out & you don’t know what to do with yourself? If this sounds like you, then make sure you’re on my email list. I’m launching my signature course Empty Nest Essentials again this fall & you don’t want to miss it! Join my email list to be the first to know when registration opens.
Until next time…
Love & Hugs,