So often I hear about people seeking balance in their lives. I’ve been one of those people. I’ve often talked about wanting to find balance in my life. I thought it was what I wanted. Feeling out of balance didn’t feel good to me. Well, I had the realization this morning that I don’t really want balance in many areas of my life. I’ll explain.
Being in balance isn’t always helpful or what I really want.
For so long, I’ve said that I need more balance in my life. I’ve asked for it & I’ve often received it without really thinking about whether it was a good thing for me. I’ve come to realize that it’s not always helpful.
Let me explain further.
Here’s a great example.
My income has increased over the last few years. At the same time, my expenses have increased as well. Hello college kids! This means that my expenses have increased & are even with my extra income that I’ve earned. This is an equity that I would rather not have. While it’s great that I’ve been able to cover those extra expenses, I’ve not really gotten what I want. I would rather have extra income that is not taken up with expenses right away.
In the future, I want to be uneven in my finances. I want more income than I have expenses. I’m happy to receive that instead.
More joy please!
Another area that I’ve decided that I would prefer to be out of balance is my joy to frustration ratio. I don’t believe that just because there is joy in my life that I will then have an equal amount of frustration to even it out. It does seem that it happens frequently though. I think it’s because there is still a small part of me that doesn’t think that I’m worthy of so much joy. So, it looks for frustration to even it out. Again, I’m happy to be uneven here.
You can insert whatever positive/negative emotions or situations into that equation. It doesn’t have to be joy & frustration. I’m just realizing that being in balance doesn’t always serve me well.
No balanced eating habits for me.
I’m also thinking about the foods that I eat. I tend to eat a very unbalanced diet. That’s actually not a bad thing. I eat a lot of vegetables and not so much junk food. I think that being out of balance is probably a good for me here. If I were to seek equity, that would mean that I need to eat more junk food to even out the good food that I eat.
Obviously, that’s not a a great idea. I know that the more junk food that I eat, the worse I feel. I’m not really motivated to shift to that balance.
I’ll choose to continue my eating habits here.
What about you?
Have you been inviting balance into your life more than you meant to do? Are there areas of your life that would be better off if they weren’t balanced?
I still think balance is good & often helpful but the way that I’m looking at is different. I’m finding acceptance for those times when balance isn’t really wanted or needed. That feels okay for me now where it didn’t in the past.
Is it time for you to look at balance differently too? What areas of your life could do with a little less equity?
I’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave me a comment & share about balance in your life right now.
Love & hugs,
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